Egotism is characterized by an exxagerated esstimate of one's intellect,ability,importance,apperance,wit or other personal charachteristics- the drive tomaintain and enhance favaroble views of oneself. In egotism we find the person filled with overweening sense of the importance and qualities of his personalities...the things of the "ME". It means placing oneself at the center of one's world with no concern of others,including those loved or considered "close", in any other terms except those set by the egotist.
Till date these were mere definitions given by some great authors, but these days I am witnessing circumstances, which have triggered my mind to think of reasons behind such behavior. I was always a firm believer of the fact that a person's nature is groomed by his upbringing, his experiences,events that have influenced his life, et al. But what has a 4 year old witnessed to exhibit traits of being stubborn, dominating, dictating, manipulative and selfish. The lost innocence is a matter of concern. Small children can never make anybody inconsolably angry, but I have experienced it and i do not like it.Explaining coolly is a better option most of the times, I beleive, but He pushes me to an extent that I want to yell and throw him out of the house. Seeing him trampling kids and ordering them around infuriates me. But what amazes me is his power of attraction. In spite of his inacceptable and audacious behavior, children want him around, wish to play with him, agree to anything , which otherwise they would have rejected.
Sometimes,I wish I had more knowledge of child pyschology so as to understand, analyse and handle this little brat in a corrective way.
It seems that you have not yet got over the young brat:p Well what if you just ignore the brats behavior, or make a decision to talk to his parents. Moreover, groom Chota bheem to follow one rule, that is: "In my house, I am the Boss". It is too difficult to follow the rule, but sometimes this may be the only thing that works. Another thing that can be done is - to engage chota bheem in various tasks, so as to consciously keep him away from the little brat. That would make more difference.
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